Grace is cultivated and grows by relationship, not by rules or endless spiritual calisthenics. This is true because grace is not just a doctrine but a person (see John 1:16; Titus 2:11–12). The deeper our relationship with Christ, the greater the experience of grace and therefore the greater the spiritual growth. If you are a parent, when your child falls down and skins her knee, do you go to the medicine chest, take out a list of things to do for skinned knees, read it off to your child, and say,